Chellygel's Thoughts

Mar 09, 2025

YouTube Videos That Resonate Right Now

It feels like you can't escape the news and the world right now (and perhaps maybe you shouldn't...). My take is that it's worth having a healthy perspective of how to interact with social media, the various algorithms, and the news cycle. I've found these videos to be really helpful, not only in understanding the impact of social media, but also how to interact with it in a way that better serves ourselves. I want to urge you to give them a chance or at least put them on in the background. I've created a playlist of the videos, for this blog post to make it even easier. Let's dive in and I'll explain as I go.

1) A Healthy Interaction With ~Your~ Algorithm

Technology Connections' most recent video: "Algorithms are breaking how we think" (37m 51s)

Technology Connection's videos are always an incredible source of deep information and understanding of the various technologies we interact with. His latest video is no different. I've been feeling the pain of the "enshitification" of the internet and social media, but TC gave me some much-needed perspective on how I am interacting with these various feeds of information. He coins the term "algorithmic complacency" which he explains that many people are "so used to algorithmically-generated feeds that they no longer care to have a self-directed experience that they are in control of." He goes on to say, "More and more people don't seem to know or care how to view the world without a computer algorithm guiding what they see."

Every service has moved further from a sensical, chronological feed of information from people you chose to follow to a feed that has the specific desire to keep you maximally engaged with the site as long as possible in order to serve you more and more ads. Doom-scrolling again for hours? That just made the company another $100 dollars of ad revenue. The systems are not designed to help us find good content, they are instead designed to keep us engaged.

So, how do we deal with that? Well, one suggestion TC makes, in the context of YouTube itself, is instead of using the home page to find videos, use your "Subscriptions" page to find videos specifically from creators you are following. To expand on that idea, you can apply the same principle to other social media platforms. Bluesky offers a "following" feed that is exclusively people you follow. Even TikTok has a "following" feed! Doing this allows you more agency into what content you are digesting as well as being your own vetted and curated feed by you yourself. TC goes on to say, "I still discover new accounts all the time, but through stuff the ones I'm following have shared." So even if you focus on your "following" feed, you can still discover new accounts and content, but it will be through your curated-by-you feed.

Of the videos I'm recommending today, this one I feel is probably the most important.

TL;DW or R: - Use more of your "following" or "subscriptions" feeds to find content - Use the people you are following to discover new accounts and content

2) Adjusting Your Window of Tolerance

Reject Convenience's most recent video "What if you can't reject convenience?" (12m 41s)

Like Technology Connections, Reject Convenience is a great source of information and insight into the internet, privacy, and, well, rejecting convenience. Most known for switching to a "dumb phone", RC's latest video is actually a short response video to the comments he received about the fear and uncertainty around rejecting smart devices.

RC explains the concept of the Window of Tolerance. Watch the video for a much better explanation, but the idea is you have to understand what you are capable of tolerating when it comes to a specific change you want to make. One of the examples provided is about using the app Instagram. You might personally feel uncomfortable using Instagram, but your friends and family might not be able to leave it behind. You could delete instagram, but that might mean you lose connections to certain friends and family. RC suggests that you can adjust your tolerance of the situation by reviewing some of the privacy settings within the app itself. RC further suggests that in some cases, you may even be able to convince your friends and family to communicate with a different app that you all agree on. No matter what your level of tolerance is, RC suggests you can find ways to make changes to make you feel a bit more comfortable but also not go too extreme to feel completely cut off.

Give it a watch. And maybe check out RC's other videos to learn a bit more about privacy and the internet.

3) Big Brother Is Influencing You AND Watching You

Philosophy Tube video "TikTok vs Democracy" (39m 28s)

Our last video for today is from Abigail Thorn of Philosophy Tube. She has quickly become one of my favorite subscriptions on YouTube. She delivers the information in such a fun and clear way. Her videos are so well done with such incredible details including costumes, sets, props, and more. Each video comes with a bibliography of sources and references.

In this video, she breaks down many issues, but one of the first is "information overload" -- how we become complacent in our learning news and ideas with so much information constantly being blasted into our eyes. We are unable to dig further than a quick headline and a short tweet.

She also talks about how social media social movements, like Occupy Wallstreet, lack the leadership and staying power due to them spreading so quickly that the movement has no chance to organize and build resiliency. They come and go but don't seem to have any staying power.

Next, she goes on to explain how social media is unable to hold people accountable for anything. She elaborates that the systems have been designed in such a way that there is no specific one individual to hold accountable for the issues that exist.

Finally, she elaborates on the topic of "surveillance capitalism" and how social media platforms and other tech companies have your data & information and then use that information to predict if and when you will purchase something. Furthermore, they can then use that information to begin to modify your behavior by slowly influencing you via those served ads or algorithms. She then draws this same concept to politics and governments. If companies are capable of predicting and modifying your behavior, why couldn't the government do the same?

My Parting Thoughts

It's been made clear through not only these videos but also my specific experiences on the internet that I no longer want to have my agency with information, knowledge, and ideas taken away from me. I do not want to slowly be manipulated into a way of thinking or be stuck scrolling for hours to feed a metric that gives companies more and more dollars just for my time. I want to connect with my peers and develop my own ideas and opinions based on my own beliefs. We are subjected to so much information that at some point, even the correct, real information is treated as false or worse, unimportant. How can we care when everything feels like a fire or a meme. We've been lulled into laziness and complacency.

As I encountered these concepts, it made me wonder how do we address these issues? Do I beg my friends to swap to other forms of communication? Do I educate more people on these thoughts and beliefs? Do I learn more and more tech skills so that I'm better equipped to protect myself? Is it time to start tearing apart how routers work to learn how I can prevent any piece of my data getting into the hands of Elon Musk or Jeff Bezos? It feels so extreme, but at the same time it feels important to try.

I'm not sure if we have the best right answer today. But I don't want to blindly walk forward continuing to serve the larger systems and machines that aren't serving me.

I hope you were also able to get a little something out of these videos or this blog. It's not all doom and gloom, you do have some control and agency over what you digest and who you share it with. Hold on to that hope and find others who do the same.

Mar 08, 2025

Books I've Read Recently

After many years of avoiding books, I've recently started reading more. It started with the book Atomic Habits by James Clear. It was suggested to me by my psychiatrist as a different perspective on how I could make effective changes to my life. A single sentiment stuck with me: if you want to become a reader, read. As silly as it sounds, that was all it took for me. I started by simply reading for 5 minutes, then in time it was easy to read more. I read on the train, I read on the couch, it didn't matter where, I would simply read. From there, I created my own philosophy about reading.

Well Rounded Reading Health Philosophy

I came up with categories for my reading philosophy:

  • Junk Food - books that do not challenge me, but simply entertain me.
  • Actual History - historical records written that fill in the gaps of my education that Texas didn't give me.
  • Philosophy & Self Help - books causing me to shape & challenge my sense of self and my beliefs.
  • Activism - books that teach me how our predecessors fought for their rights and how we can do better.
  • Interests - books about topics that intrigue me.

Junk Food

I reach for a junk food book when I want to keep the momentum of reading itself going, but I may not be interested in challenging myself. This is a great book for before bed or when I need to get some distance from technology. For me, I've been reading the Song of the Lioness series by Tamora Pierce. I'm on book 4 of the series, and I've quite enjoyed it. Although I call it junk food, I think reading in any capacity is important; however, my specific goal with reading is to grow as a person and catch up on my education. I keep one of these books around at all times, but I may not always be focused on it.

Actual History

While Junk Food can get me into the spirit of reading, my true purpose is education. As I have grown older and as I have read more and more, I've learned the heartbreaking reality that Texas simply did not educate me properly. While those history classes gave me some high level highlights of history, I've learned that there were many omissions or key details that were simply left out or slightly morphed into a different message. The first book I tackled on my "Actual History" journey was A Black Women's History of the United States. Truly, this book floored me. It opens by expressing that black people's history and especially black women's history is so hard to track because of the limited amount of resources available. The authors set out to piece together journeys of black women throughout American history from America's earliest days to present day. When the authors lack a specific or direct record, they will find resources around the same time period and subject to express how the black woman's experience could have been. In addition to piecing together older history, the authors explore and expand upon context and history of famous black women in the United States. The story of Rosa Parks is taught in Texas history classes, at a general level, but they omitted the Montgomery bus boycott, how long it lasted, how many other black women were involved, how another black woman, Claudette Colvin, was the first to be arrested for refusing to give up her seat an entire 9 months prior to Rosa Parks. These sorts of details enlightened me to the broader picture of American History and what I had been missing.

The message I want to convey to you about my "Actual History" idea is that we must learn from our history, but we also must ensure the history we learn is accurate and with important context.

Philosophy & Self Help

The next category is more focused on self-improvement. How can I find confidence in myself and my existence? I want to be able to identify the true boundaries and beliefs of myself and be able to operate without question. For so long, I shaped who I was around what I thought was important but didn't have a concrete idea of why or how it was important. So, the journey to search for my true self felt like the best way to prevent myself from questioning my actions. It would reduce the amount of time, effort, and energy to simply exist. When I engage with self-help content, I am first trying to understand if it matches my philosophy and beliefs. After that, I am trying to analyze what components I can apply or introduce into my lifestyle to make an effective change or high impact.

I would classify the Atomic Habits book as my first book in this category; however, The Courage to Be Disliked was arguably more impactful recently. I aligned pretty strongly with, I'd estimate, 90% of the book's content and philosophy. The general premise is, as the title suggests, being able to be your true self knowing that others will not always like you. This book gave me the understanding and confidence to build those stronger boundaries and beliefs around myself. I find it's much easier to set those boundaries when I've changed my lens from how do I fit in to how do I make myself feel complete. Complete with self does not always mean comfortable, but it at least means peace with my actions.

Activism

The Activism category is a bit of a personal one for me. I grew up with a very political mother. As I grew up, learned more about myself, politics, and the world, I realized that I didn't truly align with her views and beliefs. Although I would absolutely love to put her on blast right now, I'm not quite ready to do that. But, perhaps if you stay tuned you'll get to witness that messaging.

Presently, I haven't read a book that I would classify as an activism book. I'm definitely open to suggestions! The next book on my "Activism" list is Let This Radicalize You by Kelly Hayes and Mariame Kaba. I am hoping to gain some confidence and insight into how I can become more active in my community and help effect change. In addition to reading, I've begun petitioning for a local city council candidate. I'll be writing a blog post about that experience soon. For now, my guiding principle is that imperfect action is far better than no action at all.

Interests

Finally, for my last category, I focus on books that center around my interests. I love traveling, cooking, baseball, history, and more. I try to encourage the reading momentum to continue but also spark more joy into my day. Reading about a topic I'm passionate about inspires me in other areas as well as scratching the itch of searching for knowledge. My first book that fell into this category was Kitchen Confidential. I could not believe how easy and fun this book was to read. I zoomed through it and even took some learnings away from it. ROAST YOUR SOUP BONES!! Anyway, It sparked joy and caused me to pressure my wife into reading it as well. It was such a pleasure to read.

In Conclusion

So, Now you understand my book philosophy, what I'm reading, and why I'm reading. If you have suggestions, whether it be a book to read or a new category I should consider -- let me know! I'm specifically here, on this blog, to share my ideas -- but if you ALSO want to share your ideas, I'm interesed in hearing that too. For now, I do not have any commenting software available, so you'll have to message me on Bluesky. You can also follow me on The Storygraph.

Mar 06, 2025

Why a blog in the year 2025?

I feel like the internet has lost its way a bit. There's plenty of content out there, but this is about my experience. I wanted a place to share my ideas, experiences, suggestions, learnings, and whatever with friends and strangers alike. I hope that what I learn, you can extract learnings from it too. I hope my suggestions guide you to awesome results. And... I hope my experiences are useful (and maybe funny too.)

Here's a little bit of what you can expect:

  • Expect nothing. I'm here putting my thoughts out there. Oh, you're still interested? Cool! Continue reading...
  • I aim to make this world a better place through empathy, education, understanding, and action.
  • My personal reccomendations will be listed here from various cities, categories, and more.
  • I'm totally cool with you sharing things.
  • I'm not interested in taking money from you.
  • I am not seeking your approval.
  • I will express my political views and even throw support behind candidates.
  • As often as I can, I will not link to big name sites for information, but instead try to find a smaller source.
  • I will make mistakes
  • ...And if I make a mistake, please let me know what I did wrong and what action you suggest I take.
  • ...But that doesn't mean I'll agree with you. I at least want to consider your feedback.

A little about me...

  • I'm a consultant. I've worked as a devops engineer, developer, tester, project manager, process manager, and more. I have over 15 years of experience and I love what I do, but I don't always love the industry itself.
  • I love to travel.
  • I love food. I love to bake, cook, whatever. I'm always trying new things.
  • I'm originally from Texas, and as you read more you'll see that I do not have a lot of love for it.
  • ... But I still cheer for the Houston Astros. (And no I do not like the owner...)
  • I'm an anime and gamer nerd.
  • I love to build computers.
  • My consulting company is Kakumei Consulting. If you want to work with me, you can find me on Kakumei's website.